My New Reads

My blogroll has changed a bit in the last few weeks, so I want to mention a few of the newbies. (Two I met at the Blog Party, two sifted in around the same time).

  • Bringing Good Home— found her before the party started, got to know her better during it. I appreciate her open window to her home managing and herself
  • Everyday Life as Lyric Poetry— a clever young mom who likes to read
  • The Flourishing Mother— visited because of her name (I love meeting another positive mom), and returned because I liked what she had to say.
  • Whole Hearted Life— A relatively new blogger I found through my Writer…Interrupted blog ring. Another mom of three littles who’s happy to be married. I’ve enjoyed getting a peak into her life and thoughts through her blog.

Folk-Tale Wisdom

I think one of my favorite lines for myself is from the Russian Cinderella story.

This version has the orphaned daughter (Vasalisa) being helped by a little doll her mother gave her. Every time the evil steps give her some impossible task, Vasalisa pours out her heart to the doll who tells her to rest.

“Morning is Wiser than the evening,” the doll always says.

And, of course, by morning the doll has worked some magic or called some creatures to her girl’s aid, reducing the problem to almost nothing.

So often I find that if I will just give over dwelling on my problem(s) and actually rest, I find the morning really is wiser than the evening– and that is even without magical assistance.

Though, probably not without divine assistance.

Congratulations, Lance Mackey!

I know this isn’t anything like a sports blog, but this is so neat I wanted to share. My husband and I are ridiculously proud of Mackey’s achievement, considering we don’t actually know him personally.

Lance Mackey has become the first “double crown” winner in distance sled dog racing, winning both the Quest and the Iditarod in the same year. Some said it couldn’t be done, that there wasn’t enough time between races for the dogs to recover adequately.

One newspaper article quoted Mackey saying that he really didn’t push his dogs very hard on the Quest, that it was more of a training run for the Iditarod.

Twelve days after winning the 1,000-mile Yukon Quest in record time, he reharnessed 13 out of those 16 winning dogs and plunged into the 1,100-mile Iditarod. (He finished with a smaller team, and said eight of those nine dogs were in the Quest).

To cap it all, he is the third member of his family to win the Iditarod, third under bib 13, and the third to win on his 6th attempt.

After a battle with cancer.

The Fairbanks paper called him “Lance Dog-strong” today.

It’s probably as silly as being proud of watching your favorite team win the Super-Bowl in an under-dog, Disney way (it’s the folks on the team who did all the work, after all) but we are excited with him for his victory.

Congratulations, Lance Mackey! We are very proud of your achievement. (And if you decide you want a local co-author for your sure-to-be-coming book deal, well, I could probably help you out– my husband’s a big fan )

Parenting Info That is Actually Useful

Many (if not most) baby/parenting books seem to emphasize their methodology to the point of threatening your child will be scarred if their method is not used (Catherine mentioned this at the end of February).

As a ray of sensible Spring sunshine, I offer today a list of books that are both useful and positive. No guilt-trips here (unless they’re carry-ons), and instantly usable information.

Rather cold toward co-sleeping and extended breastfeeding, but very sensibly combines the ideas of flexibly and scheduling for your baby.

Also offers “rescues” for correcting mistakes entrenched by “accidental parenting.” The original book is most accessible to new and/or 1st time parents, the other offers some more detailed approaches to specific problems.

I got this information from a class that then sent this DVD home with you. If you are afraid of colic (or think your baby has it) the techniques demonstrated here could greatly reduce your stress-level.

Demonstrates how to engage a baby’s calming reflex (did you know babies have a reflex to calm themselves like they have a rooting reflex when they’re born?).

Solid information about sleep itself to help guide expectations, and a detailed methodology of finding and implementing the possible solutions collected in the books.

The information is presented in a gentle, conversational way. The author acknowledges making the changes will require additional energy from already-sapped resources, and somehow that endeared her to me.

Simply the best book to give to your pregnant friend in her third-trimester or to any woman who’s just given birth. If it doesn’t cover everything, it does cover more than any other post-partum book I’ve seen.

Understanding the difference between disobedience and the process of growing independence. Discovering potential and clarifying expectations. Creating a sense of family. I really appreciated it.

Maybe some reviewer on Amazon can articulate it better, but this is definitely a user-friendly “keeper.”

A practical book presenting techniques for organizing and motivating your professional choice of stay-at-home mothering.

These are the books that work for me. For more ideas visit Rocks in my Dryer.

A New Perspective on Spending Time with God

Some of you who read this blog know I was raised in the Church, and have always struggled with how much… whatever I was “supposed” to do. Fill-in-the-blank for whatever: Bible-reading, “quiet time,” prayer, service.

I have not, like some Christians, ever felt compelled by my church to do more. I only see new perspectives that make me reevaluate what I might be doing, or not doing.

(If you’ve been hanging out a while you’re probably also aware that “reevaluation” is for me sort of a cross between a running-gag and a need in my mind).

Right now I’m thinking about “spending time with God,” something that (rightly) is portrayed as necessary for spiritual growth, and frequently seems to involve chunks of time alone.

I am not the only mother of pre-schoolers to confess this is not a regular practice.

At a new bible study group I visited yesterday, the study-book brought up the image of God waiting for us to join Him in a special meeting place, and of Him missing us when we don’t show up.

The point was to see God as someone who values us and wants to spend “quality time” together. The idea that the interaction is not just for our benefit. It is a thought-provoking image. And a guilt-inducing one.

I had a new image come to me today (for any, like me, who have seen a certain part of the Lord of the Rings audio commentary).

What if, instead of a meeting in the drawing room, tête-à-tête by the fire, our relationship with the Lord was represented by something more like Frodo and Sam– a quester and his “back-man.”

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Tam Lin– a Tuesday Tale

(While I know this will be very familiar in some circles, it is clearly not known to the population at large. It ought to be. Naturally this is just one version out of many.)

A handsome young man was being held captive by the fairy folk. Tam Lin had been a favorite of the Queen’s for some time but she had finally found a new toy, and Tam Lin was to be the fairies’ next human sacrifice.

He met in secret with his lady, Byrd Janet, and told her what would happen, begging her to be brave enough to rescue him from his fate. Giving her detailed instructions about how to identify him among the crowd, he explained what would happen.

On All Hallows Eve Byrd Janet was to make a circle of holy water to stand in for protection, then watch the procession of the fairy folk. She must let the riders of the black horse and the brown horse pass by. Tam Lin would be riding the third– a white horse. Janet was to run to him, pull him down from the horse, and hold him; no matter what might happen.

He warned her the fairies would change his shape in her arms, but she must never let go, until she could render him human again.

It all happened as he had described.

When Byrd Janet pulled Tan Lin from his horse the entire procession halted. The folk gathered all about, trying their magic on Tam Lin. They turned him into freezing ice, a poisonous serpent, and a struggling dove who almost escaped.

Tam Lin was brought through a surging struggle of transformations until the fairies turned him into a piece of red-hot iron.

With this in her arms, Byrd Janet rushed to a nearby well and cast it in, revealing her beloved, naked, in his true form. She threw her green mantle around him, covering his nakedness and claiming him.

At this there was a great grief and wailing among the fairy folk, and their Queen declaimed in verse that she would have blinded Tam Lin, or exchanged his heart of flesh for a heart of stone, rather than lose so fair a knight to a mortal girl.

On my mind

Stream-of-consciousness list.

  • Story for tomorrow’s post
  • Table book someone loaned me at church
  • *fussy* discontented boy in my lap
  • Jay does this with the baby too: Boy’s not happy anyway? I’ll just do what I want.
  • *cluttered* house
  • not wanting to scrape dinner together
  • run-down being up multiple times with babay
  • new bible study this morning
  • needing to find/call for info they asked from me
  • What is my Bible time supposed to look like?
  • Psalm 61 today. Read it out loud. Perfect for now. Love the line, “You’ve given me the heritage of those who fear your name.”
  • Lack of sleep
  • Guess there is one much-better-than-slapped-together dinner that wouldn’t be to awful to work on. (Bonus: it’s Jay’s favorite soup.)
  • Oh. And I promised Melody I’d make ice cream for dessert. That’s not so awful. I like ice cream.
  • I’ll try walking the boy again…

Movie Weaknesses

In my 100-Things post I almost didn’t include movies #9 and #10, because I don’t believe they are for general consumption. But I did enjoy them.

I am blessed (yes, I do count it a blessing) to have a husband who enjoys “snuggly movies” (romantic comedies) with me, even though I won’t watch certain things with him (He loved the Matrix and Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon. I don’t watch R-rated movies). I’m glad he doesn’t keep score.

Anyway, we’ve had a string of -13s we’ve watched where we enjoyed the story, but each had a distinct drawback that keeps it from being fully recommendable:

  • Hitch (#9)– great angle about being detailed and conscientious in relationships. Ruined by gratuitous course language. Not something we are willing to own.
  • Bewitched (#10)– Sweet story about being genuine; and as most of the magic is “fairytale” stuff (as opposed to darkly empowered), we chose to buy that one. But I don’t like the “hex” scene, with the dancing around a cauldron (and a few lines of dialogue the hex inspired). I choose to skip those.
  • Mr. & Mrs. Smith was a Jay choice– I was pleased to finally have something of his to agree to– and the story itself was fascinating, but the spouse-to-spouse pummeling was just too much for me.
  • Music and Lyrics was what we saw yesterday. Jay and I had the same sort of reaction: That was so. fun. but

The largest drawback here was the overt sexuality of the young female singer, who was shown several times dancing around in next-to-nothing.

I told Jay we ought to buy it anyway and he could just use his media program to edit those scenes out. Especially since there’s stuff in it we really liked.

He’s still thinking about it.

Finding Motivation in a Movie

What Jay and I loved in the movie Music and Lyrics was the nuts and bolts of the musical elements.

If you don’t know already, the movie centers around an 80s has-been singer’s need to write a song in x-days for a currently popular singer, in order to revitalize his career. Add a female lyricist and you’ve got your forced interaction for your RomCom.

What none of the trailers (or even the set-up in the movie itself) prepared us for was the creating of the “demo” song.

That might have been the 2nd or 3rd greatest part in the whole movie (and there were some good lines).

You get to watch the guy playing each of the instruments, one after the other, and building the accompaniment track that the pair than sings their demo duet over.

Watching that, Jay was re-inspired to get back to playing piano. And wanting me to do more regular work on guitar.

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The State of my House

I’m so glad this isn’t a photo-blog. I’d be tempted to share the disaster area that is currently my house.  I just found a quote (don’t even know the person who said it, but that’s beside the point) and had to share:

If your house is really a mess and a stranger comes to your door, greet him with, “Who could have done this? We have no enemies.”

Phyllis Diller