A Dog as a Symbol

I wrote earlier my attempt to explain this desire for a dog, and have continued to pick away at it. I have to admit that part of the reason is this idea that getting a dog symbolizes for me (much as getting a diet book does for other parts of the population) beginning, even enabling, a healthier lifestyle.

Enabling, because I’d be willing to do things I won’t currently, like going out to run alone.

The question, then, is: Is this a good enough reason? I’m praying about that, because, by itself, I tend to think not. But I also think there are other reasons than this.

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So I said last time that dogs that can’t be trusted off-leash were off my list. And, yes, I do have a list.

Actually my desires have shifted between a specific breed, a combination of characteristics, and a breed with those characteristics.

Jay likes the idea of my having a list.

J: Maybe this way we’ll wait longer before getting a dog.
A: Either that, or we’ll know God really wants us to have one.

But my current image, while I have a breed in mind (Brittany), is more about age and accomplishments. I would *love* to find a dog at a similar level of training as the dog we re-homed a year ago.

But here’s what we’ve talked about:

  • Running
  • Skijoring
  • Frisbee
  • Tracking

Tracking I haven’t done before, but I think would be really fun. Retrieving is rather a given, like obedience training, since my girls really got into throwing while we had our cat.

Stop it. We did not let them throw the cat.

He didn’t retrieve, of course, but he did chase balls down the hall, to the girls’ great delight.

Pit Bull Defense and Analogy

I’ve been researching dogs for a few months now, and there was a long stretch there when I was seriously considering a Pit Bull.

Don’t think I’m sick.

The practice of dog fighting was/is sick, of course, and it’s very unfortunate their name ties them so directly to that purpose they were originally bred for. But there are many attractive things about the breed, and I trusted my instinct for finding a good animal.

My 2-cents of positive PR: the whole time these dogs were being bred for dog-aggression (just as beagles were bred for their noses and greyhounds for speed) they were being selected for their ability to be man-handled under the stressful conditions of fighting.

A dog that bit under pressure was a dog whose line (if not his life) did not continue. I found an interesting statistic on the site I linked above:

Unlike the myth propagated by the media however, human aggression is NOT a problem specific to pit bulls. In fact, pit bulls tend to do better than average in temperament tests.

Okay, prove it.

The American Temperament Test Society provides temperament testing around the country for dog breeds, and gives a passing score for the entire breed based on the percentage of passed over failed within total number of the particular breed tested. As of December 2003, the American Pit Bull Terrier has a current passing rate of 83.9%, and the American Staffordshire Terrier passes [two specific breeds lumped under the name “pit-bull”] at 83.2%. In comparison, The Golden Retriever passing rate is 83.2%.

So the “average” pit bull appears to be about as stable as the “average” Golden, who, as everybody knows, is the perfect family dog.

Interesting.

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I came up with an analogy tonight, and that was comparing the general public’s response to the pit bull-type with the general response of a woman, alone after dark, passing an unfamiliar man. (Come to think of it, she probably wouldn’t mind having a pit bull with her under those circumstances…)

Statistically, that man is not dangerous; there is no reason to assume something bad is going to happen now, other than bad things have happened in these circumstances before.

And, really, to protect yourself, you aught to think that way. I just think it puts in some perspective the instant fear-response that goes along with the name Pit Bull.

Ultimately, I passed on the PB for a similar reason I passed on the Whippet, earlier– while it meets many of my criteria, it is not trustworthy off-leash. One of my goals is to train a Frisbee dog, and that’s just not something you can do on-leash.

I am not a perfect cat…

…But in an attempt to improve, I resolve:

  • Though my human will never let me eat the pet hamster, I am at peace with that.
  • To remember my toy mouse is a much more socially acceptable gift than a big live bug, even if it isn’t as tasty.
  • I will not slurp fish food from the surface of the aquarium.
  • I will not lean way over to drink out of the tub, fall in, and then pelt right for the box of clumping cat litter.
  • I will not use the bathtub to store live mice for late-night snacks.
  • I will not play “Herd-of-Thundering-Wildebeests-Stampeding- Across-the-Plains-of-the-Serengeti” over any humans’ bed while they are trying to sleep. Continue reading »

Quote Round-up

I still find each day too short for all the thoughts I want to think, all the walks I want to take, all the books I want to read, and all the friends I want to see.

–John Burroughs

Perfect love, we know, casteth out fear. But so do several other things– ignorance, alcohol, passion, presumption and stupidity.
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It is quite useless knocking at the door of heaven for earthly comfort; it’s not the sort of comfort they supply there.

–C.S. Lewis

How great the illusion that beauty is goodness

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A person who publishes a book willfully appears before the populace with his pants down… If it is a good book nothing can hurt him. If it is a bad book, nothing can help him.

–Edna St. Vincent Millay

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It’s not that I believe in miracles – I depend on them.

–Anne Lamott

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The Christian ideal has not been tried and found wanting; it has been found difficult and left untried.

G.K. Chesterton

Revealing Choices

I’ve never seen an actual study on this, but the existence of advertising pretty much confirms it is true.

The choices we make, what we choose buy or spend time on, say a great deal about how and who we want to be.

My favorite examples of this are exercise magazines and diet books: perennial top-sellers, but very rarely having any new information. All (the good ones) are variants on the basic theme of *Take in less, Move more.* But they continue to sell, because, while we truly can’t buy good health or a better body, we can buy this symbol of hope, as a testament to our desire for change.

It’s been said by others than me that everything we buy is about image (that’s the whole point of good-looking/sexy/funny people in commercials, right?). I’ll try not to seriously analyze the psyche of the mom who’s always buying the name-brand mac & cheese, but I do start praying for her marriage when she excitedly tells me the titles if three or four relationship books she just bought on Amazon.

My New Essential Roadside-Emergency Item

I just found Works For Me Wednesday, and thought it sounded cool. Here’s mine.

This winter I discovered a new item to keep in my car in case of emergency.

A sled.

Forgive me if it’s something standard I just never noticed before.

With three children under age-five it’s my new essential to recommend to anybody with more than one kid. When it’s cold (we’ve had a couple -40 stretches already this winter), you just don’t want to move at a pre-schooler’s pace. At least, not my pre-schoolers’ outdoor pace. They seem to slow with the cold, like molasses.

What is *Difficulty* Saying?

Dad’s schooling issue has worked out.

The difficulty, though, caused this question to be considered: Is this so hard because we’re trying to plow our own way, without God’s help, and outside of his will, or is God just preparing to show himself mighty?

It was the latter. After allowing my parents to see that there was no human way to accomplish what they needed, He made the perfect way. There was no question this was God’s will and God’s provision.

Homeschool: Not Optional for Us.

I think the reason Kendra’s post meant so much to me was wrapped up in #5, and the rest were about understanding and surviving in that universe.

5. For many of us, homeschooling isn’t an option. Many believe it is not only the best way for their family, it is the only way… When sharing a particular struggle unique to homeschooling, comments like, “Well, why don’t you consider putting them in school? Maybe homeschooling just isn’t your thing” aren’t helpful. Instead, offer a listening ear and your fervent prayers on her behalf.

Jay and I have talked about this many times, and I constantly pray (and begin research projects) to be prepared. I feel so passionately about this it’s hard sometimes to remain neutral when a friend or relative begins proselytizing about their own child’s school situation (or offering to help us out by sharing something from that lovely program.)

This might rankle some because I am working so hard not to do the same. Not that I yet have any “miracles” to offer, just that I refrain from sharing a list of our reasons to stay home that will inevitably sound like attack on their parental skills/love for letting their own child(ren) go off.

Disclaimer of course: I know public school is the only (or even perhaps right) option for some people. I think I am more frustrated by the unexamined expectation that *this is just what you do with your kids.*

Jay and I feel a near-moral obligation to keep our kids home, and so we (at least, I) feel frustrated by the emphasis of things (even as benign as Sesame Street) on going away to school and the hype of large crowds *just your own age* (and little adult supervision or interaction).

The more I research, the more I feel sure this is what we must do, and the more I *wish* I were the organizationally-gifted type.

Quite Enough.

Okay, I don’t know if this should make me horribly embarrassed, but I have {gulp} –okay, I’ll say it– six different blogs that I have put on-line.

I have this one, which is something of my “play” site, and Family News, a combination memory-book and update-letter to family. They were going to encompass all I needed to blog for.

Then I also have Blogger and Xanga accounts for commenting on those sites.

Next, last week, in a moment of bravery, I took the suggestion of my Acoustic Guitar magazine and created a “musician” MySpace page. (I’ll not link there, seeing as it’s still very embryonic, and I’m feeling less-brave this morning).

Finally, just a couple days ago, I signed up at Homeschool Blogger. (Snow Fairy is my “other” screen name– sort of a nod to my storytelling and home at the same time.) Also limited to commenting, now.

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I’ve decided this is just a very unique season: With Elisha nursing so much I have a lot of “mindless” time to spend reading and doing things on the computer. I do expect I’ll be needing to re-train myself when he is done that this much computer-time is not normal…

Thank you Kendra Fletcher

Kendra Fletcher of the Preschoolers and Peace website and blog posted this last week.

If you are the mother, grandmother, sister, friend, father, or brother of a homeschooling mom, here are some things you should know:

1. Educating children at home is a full-time job. Don’t get irritated if she consistently allows the answering machine to do its job. If she were a teacher in an institutional classroom, you probably wouldn’t think of calling her during school hours, so try to realize that while still at home, she is keeping regular school hours, too.

2. Unlike homes in which the children are gone for eight straight hours, her home is in a constant state of activity. The children are not only home, they are home making messes. All day long. Their mother doesn’t even have the opportunity to go into their rooms while they are at school and weed out the junk. And if she is like me, you might find odd homeschooly things lying around- like the month we had a dead turtle in the garage fridge.

3. Housekeeping and homeschooling are mutually exclusive. If she is doing her job educating her children academically, then her house is not being cleaned. If she takes the day to clean the house, then school will not be accomplished. Continue reading »