Going through a list of personal interests/roles/priorities (this resource was what prompted the inventory) and firming which ones are just for me.
Only and completely for my own enjoyment of life, and nothing to do with what anybody else thinks.
This is a big deal because it means if I’m happy, the task is successfully completed.
For the first time I realized that for me this is guitar and piano.
Previously when I’d try and go through the process of making a schedule (Always beginning with a list of everything I’d like to fit into my life) I’d include the “good” stuff I knew a disciplined me would do everyday with intent. That meant music practice (along with bible-reading, prayer and cooking), and even writing it down would leave a sour taste in my mouth. The reminder of something else I must not want enough ’cause I can’t make it happen.
If I’m really going to go out of my way to do a creative something every. day. I want it to be writing!
What Amy (different Amy, not me) suggests instead is a step back, to first define the roles you have, and draw tasks from those roles. It is, I suppose, a way of looking at priorities, but in a specific way.
For me, God, Jay, kids, house, is *way* too generic a list.
By saying the activities/jobs that are tagged under each role, I am able to break things into smaller chunks– but not so small that “musician” could make the list. She limits you to seven roles (blanks on the worksheet, anyway) so *everything* isn’t included.
And I was able (because of her very specific insistence) to include self in those roles. Once I saw music as an activity I did to become my best self, not a goal of it’s own, I felt instantly freer. For the first time I saw that every time I dink around (and get a little better, and show my kids music is play and a delight), I’ve done enough. With very. few. exceptions I have no need to perfect any one song for outside consumption.
Another bonus was seeing my list of “jobs” (what I want to do to become the best I can be) in my wife role, were basically covered by fulfilling a couple of the remaining roles on my list: home-managing and teaching the children. These are the big things (I asked!) that make my husband feel loved and that he has a peaceful home/happy family.
So I’m recommending Amy’s (short!) book on time management. Short reason: it’s about knowing where you want to go, and making small steps toward that every day. It’s moving beyond wishing to living.
And that is delicious.