Whose Will?

One thing I have struggled with in my parenting is the role of the “strong will.”

I have a strong will, I always have had (and my mother likes to say every child is a strong-willed child), so I really don’t feel threatened by examples of will in my children.

I like to say: “I’d rather deal with the challenges of a strong will now than the consequences of a weak will later.”

But being a fairly honest person I have to ask myself sometimes whether I’m making a decision to train their will or indulge my own.  Yes, it’s good to teach them to wait, but children are supposed to help their parents grow less-selfish too…

Many times the issue seems to come down to: Do I feed *their* self-centeredness or my own?

I have been praying about this off-and-on since last winter, and in Sunday school this morning I think I found a resolution.

We were talking about Jesus and how many times he made it clear he was not working from his own agenda, and someone read John 5:30.

The part I needed was, “My judgment is just, for I seek not to please myself but him who sent me.”

This was what I needed, because I am so concerned with justice; fairness.  How could I know I was being just? I have to run it through this filter: Is this choice an effort to please God or to please myself?

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One thought on “Whose Will?

  1. What a great way to think through my decisions/actions/choices…because I want to please Him who chose me, who called me out of darkness and into light.

    Thanks for sharing yourself and your insight.

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