What if this is something God’s giving you to wrestle with your whole life?
Here is, to me, the biggest part of Christian community: individuals who are safe (as opposed to, you know, unsafe.), and have earned the right to be heard. I know this woman loves me. She genuinely desires peace and good things for me. So a hard suggestion like that is not painful.
In fact it was perfect, because whether or not it proves to be accurate it provided the necessary re-framing I needed to lighten up.
I’ve been treating my emotional health as something like a sprint: The goal’s not far away: the harder I push, the sooner I’ll reach it!
So I read, and think, and self-analyze, and look for the right book, or bible study, or counselor. And I see real improvement, and I can feel myself getting stronger and that just encourages me to dig in harder, I’m so close!
And then find new things I need to work on.
I don’t know if I’m going to fight this my whole life (naturally I hope not), but I can see the wisdom in in treating it as a marathon and not a sprint.
The most effective teaching seems to be about slowing down. And not just about but some reasonable suggestions how. That’s been my missing link.
Not only does the shift in perspective encourage a more-thoughtful approach to how I divide my time, it also lightens the pressure on each new thing I approach or try. This does not have to fix everything. This can be appreciated for what it is, not just how far it advances my goals.
And doesn’t that sound more sane?