I think all of us here know the “rule” about using “I-statements” in arguments and discussions, rather than “you-statements.”
“I feel…” instead of “You’re *wrong*”
I knew a guy in college that I once out-argued and he sputtered for a moment before collecting himself and sagely observing, “Well, you are un-wrong in that instance.”
I realized today that there are those for whom refraining from saying You’re wrong is not enough. These people feel it’s part of the same, basic politeness for me to acknowledge their side has an equal legitimacy; an equal chance of being correct.
And if I’m being *really* polite I might hint the other person’s idea has the tiniest bit of upper hand because I’m less-open minded and perhaps might not notice if I were wrong.
Anyway, there are probably topics where this kind of exchange would be possible. The problem is, I don’t think it would occur to me to discuss them, because I wouldn’t see them having a lot of significance.
There are things I will “go to the wall” on. And while I won’t usually say that exact phrase without being asked, I am not going to pretend anything contradictory is of equal importance. Even to be polite.