{"id":269,"date":"2013-10-20T00:14:49","date_gmt":"2013-10-20T08:14:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.writinghope.com\/?p=269"},"modified":"2018-09-26T09:11:06","modified_gmt":"2018-09-26T17:11:06","slug":"conflict-nano-prep-20","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/untanglingtales.com\/WritingHope\/conflict-nano-prep-20\/","title":{"rendered":"Conflict (NaNo Prep 20)"},"content":{"rendered":"<blockquote><p>Knowing when to fight is just as important as knowing how. &#8212; Terry Goodkind, Faith of the Fallen<\/p>\n<p>Peace is not the absence of conflict but the presence of creative alternatives for responding to conflict \u2014 alternatives to passive or aggressive responses, alternatives to violence. &#8212; Dorothy Thompson<\/p>\n<p>It takes too much energy to be against something unless it\u2019s really important. &#8212; Madeleine L&#8217;Engle<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<div id=\"attachment_657\" style=\"width: 234px\" class=\"wp-caption alignleft\"><a href=\"http:\/\/untanglingtales.com\/WritingHope\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/10\/two-soldiers.jpg\"><img aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-657\" decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-657\" src=\"http:\/\/untanglingtales.com\/WritingHope\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/10\/two-soldiers-224x300.jpg\" alt=\"Image courtesy of Penny Mathews via stock.xchng\" width=\"224\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"http:\/\/untanglingtales.com\/WritingHope\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/10\/two-soldiers-224x300.jpg 224w, http:\/\/untanglingtales.com\/WritingHope\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/10\/two-soldiers-767x1024.jpg 767w, http:\/\/untanglingtales.com\/WritingHope\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/10\/two-soldiers-700x933.jpg 700w, http:\/\/untanglingtales.com\/WritingHope\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/10\/two-soldiers.jpg 845w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 224px) 100vw, 224px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-657\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Image courtesy of Penny Mathews via stock.xchng<\/p><\/div>\n<p>Most of us know by this point in the game that fiction is about conflict. If there is no conflict, there is no story.<\/p>\n<p>Because of <a href=\"http:\/\/untanglingtales.com\/2013\/03\/courage\/\">my background and study of mental health<\/a>, I automatically categorize the term\u00a0<em>conflict<\/em> as <em>Stress.<\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\">This is unfortunate on one level, because as a culture we haven&#8217;t quite made the necessary shift from Stress-as-badge-of-honor to Stress-as-something-to-manage-like-bacteria.<\/p>\n<p>The word <strong>stress<\/strong> comes from an engineering vocabulary referencing force being exerted on a system, and knowing how much that system can handle. For example if an electrical system gets too stressed, that&#8217;s what a breaker is for: the system is switched off before it can start a fire in the walls.<\/p>\n<p>Humans have no analogous breaker.<\/p>\n<p>Instead our stress builds and builds until we recognize the stress (and\/or its affects) and change the load on our &#8220;system,&#8221; or until we simply break (more and more researchers are beginning to posit this is where all sorts of disorders like depression, anxiety, or fibromyalgia, originate).<\/p>\n<p>What does all this have to do with writing?<\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_660\" style=\"width: 310px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a href=\"http:\/\/untanglingtales.com\/WritingHope\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/10\/haunted.jpg\"><img aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-660\" decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-660\" src=\"http:\/\/untanglingtales.com\/WritingHope\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/10\/haunted-300x200.jpg\" alt=\"Image courtesy of Penny Mathews via stock.xchng\" width=\"300\" height=\"200\" srcset=\"http:\/\/untanglingtales.com\/WritingHope\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/10\/haunted-300x200.jpg 300w, http:\/\/untanglingtales.com\/WritingHope\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/10\/haunted.jpg 541w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-660\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Image courtesy of Penny Mathews via stock.xchng<\/p><\/div>\n<p>Well, the main reason I bring it up, is that the brain perceives all stress as real. That is, the brain makes no distinction between a traumatic memory, a suspenseful novel, or worrying about the future. Past reality, present fiction, future fear&#8211; your brain interprets and experiences them all as happening right. now.<\/p>\n<p>And this matters, because I believe being aware of this will help you manage your plot-stress separate from your life-stress (though it would be healthy to take a hard look at <em>that, <\/em> too!).<\/p>\n<p>So start with recognizing there are reasons you&#8217;re having difficulty making characters&#8217; lives as bleak as necessary. Yes, you may feel protective of them, but you may also be protecting yourself. Remember this is your job (some of you) and a conscious choice (the rest of you), so remind yourself that some stress can be good: the type of stretching that makes you more limber and ready to face your life.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">~ ~ ~<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><strong>Conflict <\/strong>is an expansion of the concept we addressed on <a href=\"http:\/\/untanglingtales.com\/WritingHope\/pick-a-problem-nano-prep-8\/\">Day 8 of NaNo Prep<\/a>, where I urged you to <a href=\"http:\/\/untanglingtales.com\/WritingHope\/pick-a-problem-nano-prep-8\/\">Pick Your Problem(s)<\/a>. You can build a conflict thread the way you build a story thread, considering a falling-domino path (forward or in reverse) of what surprises, or bad-decisions that could lead to more trouble.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s good to brainstorm a series of complications.\u00a0 They <em>can <\/em>all come from the same direction, but then you end up with a story like a boxing match: two guys standing around hitting back and forth.<\/p>\n<p>This is a tried-and-true method, and if you know how to make it interesting, go for it.<\/p>\n<p>Other options include variations on the list in the last paragraph of day 8. Is the MC his\/her own enemy? Does s\/he have a <a href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Frenemy\">frenemy<\/a>? What about an enemy s\/he doesn&#8217;t even know about or recognize because the villain is after the MC through a case of mistaken identity? (That last one sounds like fun!).<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">~ ~ ~<\/p>\n<p>One of the most heart-wrenching (remember that&#8217;s supposed to be a good thing, here) conflicts you can put in a novel is when your MC has to choose between not just the hard-good and easy-bad, but two goods.<\/p>\n<p>That is, if you <a href=\"http:\/\/untanglingtales.com\/WritingHope\/meet-your-main-character-nano-prep-6\/\">develop your MC<\/a> well, your reader will know what s\/he values. Often new values are introduced over the course of the story, and MC must choose between two goods. In this way we come to understand MC&#8217;s hierarchy of values (how they change or don&#8217;t), or (my always-favorite) we get to see their brilliance as they <a href=\"http:\/\/tvtropes.org\/pmwiki\/pmwiki.php\/Main\/TakeAThirdOption\">take a third option.<\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">~ ~ ~<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Depending on your personality, your writing style, or the kind of story you want to tell, you can use the interchangeability of &#8220;conflict&#8221; and &#8220;stress&#8221; to amp up your story. Consider what creates stress in your own life.<\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_656\" style=\"width: 214px\" class=\"wp-caption alignleft\"><a href=\"http:\/\/untanglingtales.com\/WritingHope\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/10\/fussy-girl.jpg\"><img aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-656\" decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-656\" src=\"http:\/\/untanglingtales.com\/WritingHope\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/10\/fussy-girl-204x300.jpg\" alt=\"Image courtesy of Daniel Zehle via stock.xchng\" width=\"204\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"http:\/\/untanglingtales.com\/WritingHope\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/10\/fussy-girl-204x300.jpg 204w, http:\/\/untanglingtales.com\/WritingHope\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/10\/fussy-girl.jpg 360w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 204px) 100vw, 204px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-656\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Image courtesy of Daniel Zehle via stock.xchng<\/p><\/div>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">There is the obvious stuff:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Family complications<\/li>\n<li>Traffic<\/li>\n<li>Job (Degrading, bad boss\/coworkers, poor match for personality or skills)<\/li>\n<li>Weather<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>But there&#8217;s also deeper more esoteric stuff.<\/p>\n<p>In his book, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Undoing-Perpetual-Stress-21stCentury-ebook\/dp\/B002EBDONS\/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1382242605&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=Undoing+Perpetual+Stress\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">Undoing Perpetual Stress<\/span><\/a>, Richard O&#8217;Connor spends a lot of time unpacking the extent that stress has affected our modern lives. He says that one meaning of stress is being subjected to conditions you weren&#8217;t designed for (sounds like engineering again).<\/p>\n<p>But since (as a whole) books in general and stories in particular are intended to bring light into peoples lives, we design characters that <em>can <\/em>withstand the conditions. They just don&#8217;t know it until they do, offering hope to us readers that perhaps we, too, have hidden reserves to fall back on&#8211; if the stakes are high enough.<\/p>\n<p>O&#8217;Connor talks about that too, highlighting how a <em>loss of personal meaning<\/em> is a huge component of modern stress, how disconnection from other people and &#8220;the disparity between how we imagine our lives should be and how we actually experience them&#8221; weigh us down.<\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_658\" style=\"width: 209px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a href=\"http:\/\/untanglingtales.com\/WritingHope\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/10\/boy.jpg\"><img aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-658\" decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-658\" src=\"http:\/\/untanglingtales.com\/WritingHope\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/10\/boy-199x300.jpg\" alt=\"Image courtesy of M Nota via stock.xchng\" width=\"199\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"http:\/\/untanglingtales.com\/WritingHope\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/10\/boy-199x300.jpg 199w, http:\/\/untanglingtales.com\/WritingHope\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/10\/boy.jpg 400w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 199px) 100vw, 199px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-658\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Image courtesy of M Nota via stock.xchng<\/p><\/div>\n<p>Every story is a fantasy, and through each story we get a moment of coherence in what seems at times to be an extremely chaotic world.<\/p>\n<p>When you give a character something to fight for, you not only give him\/her a reason to stick it out or do what s\/he is doing, you also up the perceived value of that motivation with every hit your MC takes.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\">Yes. It was worth it. No, I&#8217;m not quitting. Here. I&#8217;m still pressing on.<\/p>\n<p><strong>What can you put your Main Character through to show how much s\/he values what s\/he&#8217;s fighting for?<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Most of us know by this point in the game that fiction is about conflict. 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